I have been a divorce attorney for more than 30 years. Before that, I worked in the office of a judge who primarily handled divorces. I've seen a lot over the years, some good and some bad.
Over the last several years, one positive force in family law has stuck out; the ever-increasing popularity of pro se mediation. We have seen a significant increase in mediation cases around Carmel, Fishers, and other Indianapolis suburbs.
Frankly, pro se is the best option for most divorcing couples. Most of the time, the two parties want the proceedings to be fair and painless. In this circumstance, pro se is the best choice - there is no need for legal representation during negotiations and certainly no need to litigate.
Professionally, I prefer the efficient, straightforward manner of pro se cases over the long, drawn-out process that lawyers can sometimes instigate.
Pro se mediation, or self-representation mediation, allows divorcing couples to work out their differences without requiring teams of expensive lawyers and time-consuming court battles. Here are some of the reasons why pro se mediation can be a successful option for many divorcing couples.
Cost
Pro se mediation is a less expensive option than going to court. With court costs and attorney fees, divorce proceedings can quickly become a financial burden. However, by engaging in pro se mediation, couples can save thousands of dollars and still reach a mutually satisfactory agreement.
Efficiency
Pro se mediation is a faster process than going to court. When couples take their divorce to court, they often face a backlog of cases and long wait times. Pro se mediation, on the other hand, allows couples to resolve their differences promptly.
Collaboration
Thirdly, pro se mediation is a more collaborative process than going to court. In court, each spouse is represented by their own attorney, which can create an adversarial atmosphere. As a pro se mediator, it is my job to understand both parties and help derive a compromise that is agreed upon - not forced upon - by all.
This collaborative approach can lead to better outcomes and a more amicable divorce.
Control
Pro se mediation allows couples to maintain control over the outcome of their divorce. In court, a judge decides how to divide assets, determine child custody, and more. In pro se mediation, it is my duty to help the couple work together to create a plan that works for them. This allows them to control their future and avoid a one-size-fits-all solution.
It is true the pro se only works for some cases. Sometimes you need a lawyer! But over the years, I've learned that most of the time, the couple themselves are the only ingredient required to work out an agreement.
If you are separated or divorcing, please consider pro se mediation. If you have any questions, don't hesitate to contact us.